Developing and encouraging independence in the early years’ stage is vital for integration into school and of course, for life.
- Show confidence in children’s abilities, allow them to do things independently
- Provide guidance and then give them the freedom to make their own decisions
- Encourage children to be aware of risks and be confident to “have a go”
- Needless to say, give children love and respect
As parents, we naturally tend to over-protect our children
Too often we intervene when our children come across challenging situations, ready to provide instant solutions. When children fall, we often lift them up, rather than letting them cope and understand the situation. What if they were to get up by themselves, learning about their physical abilities and taking risks? When children argue over a toy, we tend to intervene, as peacekeepers. When we do this, we rob them of an opportunity to learn to negotiate, stand up for themselves and develop social skills. We end up doing things for our children which they are often capable of doing themselves.
Pause for a moment and ask yourself, what are your children able to do without your support, which currently you are doing for them?